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Side Note to Life: [After You’re Gone, How do You Want to be Remembered?]

How do you want people to remember you? What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

Most of the time, we expect people like world leaders or big-time entrepreneurs to have answers to these questions. And when asked the question, everyone wants to give the impression of doing something huge that would probably be mentioned in history books later in life. But guess what, you don’t necessarily have to start big. You can start by changing one person’s life; just one heartbeat at a time.

You may not have the capital to start a home for the orphans and the homeless nor the resources to organize a crusade to win the lost but you can be a friend to someone who dearly needs one; you can be a comforter to someone in dying need of consolation, you can be a provider for someone who lacks. All it takes is to have the passion and the compassion to care for someone that much to help him or her succeed in life. Make that person your life project.

At age 20, you may still be in school, not have a part-time job and still confused about what you want to do in future and have some attitudinal problems, but the right mind and heart, you can change a life- you don’t have to buy the person gifts; just be a friend and the person will appreciate you forever.

At age 40, you may not own a house or a car or have a stable good job and may be facing some problems with spouse and children but it is not too late to turn things around. Make things right with your children. Teach your children the love of God and appreciate each one for his or her unique qualities. Appreciate your spouse for giving you the family you are so proud of. Be a parent and a mentor to a colleague at your workplace or your neighborhood and share in his or her success and failures.

At age 60, you may have watched your children settle in good jobs and in marriages and you may be enjoying good times with your spouse reflect on the significant quality times spent with your children growing up. You may have finished helping your children establish but there may be someone who needs your support and counsel to establish himself. You could talk to that addict to convince him or her that there is more to life. You can tell him God cares for matter what he or she has done.

You may be retired and be nearing the grave and you may be thinking that you wasted your life because you didn’t do anything concrete for people to remember. But trust me, the seed of support, advice, and companionship you gave people may leave them indebted to you even after you are long gone. Your legacy could live on and on when the people whose lives you impacted do the same to others. And surely, God will also reward you and say, “Well done, my faithful servant.”

 

 

Photo Cred: Anton Darius

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Pretty Hurts

 

It’s been a long time since I’ve been inspired or impressed by a Beyoncé’s music video; I hardly listen to her songs anymore.  A few nights ago, after I’ve given up trying to find a good movie to watch on TV, I settled for a channel playing music. I was working on the next chapter of the Swapping Places series when I heard a voice. I was tempted to change the channel but somehow felt lazy to pick up the remote control.

I’ve come to this conclusion about secular music: no matter how good the music sounds, watch the video to see the reasoning behind it before deciding to fall in love with it. I’ve heard great tunes only to be disappointed at best and appalled or worst with their videos.

So I think I was looking for a suitable word for what I was writing and found myself drawn to the video. I must say, I loved the story being told such that I told myself, “Aha, this is the Beyoncé I used to know.”

As women in the 21st century, one truth that would be widely accepted is that, beauty is pain. For a lady to step out with a flawless makeup on, it means she might have taken quite some time to have it done. For those in the limelight, God knows how much they spend and what they go through to appear the way they do and all for what? Human applause? To be named in the top 10 of something? For an award?

Don’t get me wrong, looking good is great. But the issue is the intention behind the extent we go sometimes. I believe the purpose for whatever we find ourselves doing is what matters. Let the applause just be a bonus. It’s not worth it, killing yourself just for your fellow human being to call you beautiful or the best at something.

The truth is, for all the thousands of people who claim to be your fans don’t just follow you. They are fans of your competitor as well. They are just enjoying the show that you’re making of your life. We all have our favorite artistes but our playlist contain songs from other singers as well. In whatever you’re trying to outdo another wouldn’t make those you like you, like your competitor any less.

Discover what you are good at, excel at it and when your 5 minutes of fame comes, enjoy it. But remember, the spotlight won’t be in your direction forever. When it is moving away, let it go but keep working harder, not just so it will come back to you; but because you know that’s what you were born to do. As for applause, no matter how loud and hard people clap, they will definitely fade at one point. If all you live for is that applause, what will become of you after it ceases?

Every goal hurts not just being pretty because everything takes effort. Just don’t do it to please people because they will let you down. No matter how much you love a song, you tire of it after listening to it after a while. The same with applause. Live for something more worthwhile.

© Josephine Amoako 2017

 

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Faded Shades of Life

Faded

Gone are the days when faded meant old;

Worn out, expired, out of touch;

When clothes had an expiring date;

Starting with the moment they get their first wash;

Things were only appreciated when they looked new;

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Please Don’t Auto-Correct Me!

When you’re typing something on your phone and it decides on all its smart wisdom to auto-correct your words based on its in-built predictions, it can be a little irritating, right? Although your phone meant well (to make your life easier), you can’t help but tell it to mind its business and just follow your typing orders. Sometimes, we type so fast and tap ‘send’ before realizing that your device has sent a totally different message thanks to its auto-correct feature. Then we have to apologize and blame it on the phone for the misplaced message. How many people can relate? Continue reading Please Don’t Auto-Correct Me!